Judges can remove guns in domestic violence cases
SAN ANTONIO (AP) — In the days before Cynthia Jean Goodrum's slaying, her estranged husband bought several firearms, an ominous sign in their tumultuous relationship.
After filing for divorce she had sought a temporary restraining order against her husband. But before he could be served with papers, Narada Goodrum fatally shot his pregnant wife on Dec. 27. Last week, he committed suicide while on the run in Las Vegas.
New tool removes guns from domestic violence suspects
In the days before Cynthia Jean Goodrum's slaying Dec. 27, her husband purchased several firearms, an ominous sign in a relationship that long had been tumultuous. read more
According to a 2011 report by the Alabama Criminal Justice Information Center, more than 2,100 domestic violence incidents were reported in the state of Alabama, representing about 10 percent of the overall violent reports.
Twenty-six people were killed that year by domestic violence; there were 181 rapes and 1,853 violent assaults.
The vast majority (88 percent) of those homicides were perpetrated by men upon their wives, girlfriends or ex-girlfriends. Still, 12 percent of the fatalities were men – a pretty large number when you consider how relatively uncommon it is for a woman to kill a man. read more
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CLEVELAND, Ohio -- When they are weary and abused, when they are beaten down by men in their lives or their own drug addictions -- Cleveland-area women can go to two places that stand ready as havens of healing. read more
Montgomery CrimeStoppers: Have you seen this man?
Wednesday, October 10th, 2012
MONTGOMERY, AL (WSFA) - The Montgomery Police Department and Central Alabama Crime Stoppers are asking for help in finding a suspect they say has been on the run since October 5.
Authorities are searching for 43-year-old Robert James Simmons in connection with a domestic violence strangulation warrant.
Simmons' last know address was 3211 Mobile Hwy. at the Royal Inn Motel in room 149. Simmons also has family members who live in the 4000 block of Colfax Drive.
Authorities say if you encounter Simmons, approach him with caution as the subject has an "extensive criminal history."
Simmons is described as a black male, approximately 6'1" weighing approximately 245 pounds.
If you know of Simmons' whereabouts you are asked to contact the Montgomery Police Department or Central Alabama Crimestoppers at 215-STOP.
Echo's of Silent Voices has joined "CUE-NC as the new CUE-AL Center for Missing Persons
What is an Order of Protection?
It is a paper signed by a judge that tells someone who is threatening you to stop it or face serious legal consequences. While the order is merely a piece of paper and can’t actually stop a bullet, it is nevertheless a powerful document because if the defendant violates the order of protection, he or she can go to jail.
Who can obtain an Order of Protection?
Orders of protection typically protect victims of stalking, domestic abuse, or sexual assault. However, certain criteria must be met. The order is only available for you against a person:
1. To whom you are currently or formerly related by blood or marriage
2. With whom you have resided
3. With whom you have had an intimate sexual relationship
4. With whom you have dated
5. With whom you have a child (born or unborn)
6. Who has stalked you
7. Who has sexually assaulted you
How can an Order of Protection help me?
You can be helped in many ways by obtaining an order of protection. The order may stop another person from contacting, calling you or visiting. What it is not....A protection order is not a guarentee of your safety but a guarentee that law enforcement can get involved and take actions that may not otherwise be an immediate option.
(1) You can have them arrested if they violate a Protective Order (if they knew about it).
(2) It can order the other person to move out.
(3) It can also forbid the other person from possessing, owing or buying firearms.
(3) It can even order the other person to pay for some other place for you and your children to live.
(4) The order can also direct the abuser to attend counseling programs that address violence or substance abuse issues.
If you feel you are in danger, are a victim of recurring violence, an order of protection may help you to keep you safe or safer depending upon the person and the situation your are attempting to be protected from.
NOW Foundation Files Amicus Brief in Domestic Violence Case
November 21, 2012 : On Nov. 20, the National Organization for Women (NOW) Foundation filed a friend-of-the-court brief on behalf of 10 women's rights and anti-violence organizations in the case of Khawam v. Wolfe, in the District of Columbia Court of Appeals. The brief supports reversal of an unprecedented award of $350,000 in attorneys' fees against a woman who accused her ex-husband of domestic violence. read more
Violence against women in Latin America: Is it getting worse?
Across Latin America, women are confronting a rise in brutal attacks – as advocates struggle to sustain the progress that's been made in curbing violence against women. read more
“Dating and domestic violence are problems at The University of Alabama, as well as at other colleges and universities across the country and around the world,” said Paige Miller, the campus violence events coordinator at the Women’s Resource Center. According to a report by the Domestic Violence Resource Center, one in four women have experienced domestic abuse by a boyfriend or spouse in her lifetime, including any kind of verbal, psychological or physical mistreatment. While men are also susceptible to abuse, women make up 85 percent of domestic violence cases, according to the report. Women of all ages and races are affected, but women ages 20-24 are at the greatest risk. “Statistics tell us that one in five college females will experience some form of dating violence,”.
Domestic violence, a largely unreported crime
Verizon Wireless Presents Grants to Alabama Domestic Violence Non-Profits in Culmination of HOPEWEEK
MONTGOMERY, Ala., Nov. 9, 2012 -- /PRNewswire/ -- Verizon Wireless today awarded grants of $2,500 each to domestic violence agencies in Opelika and Montgomery as part of a competition involving sororities across Alabama during HOPEWEEK, a domestic violence awareness initiative organized by Verizon and the Alabama Coalition Against Domestic Violence (ACADV).
Auburn's Alpha Chi Omega chapter, which adopted the Domestic Violence Intervention Center in Opelika, and Alabama State's Alpha Kappa Alpha chapter, which picked the Family Sunshine Center in Montgomery, delivered the most signatures and phones as part of the HOPEWEEK competition.
Rowlett man launches organization to combat domestic violence
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Dallas Mayor Mike Rawlings has scheduled a news conference on Monday to focus on the issue of domestic violence and what needs to be done to protect its victims. read more
Mon October 22, 2012 (CNN) -- Seventeen days ago, Radcliffe Haughton allegedly slashed his wife's tires outside a suburban Milwaukee salon. Three days ago, the 45-year-old man was issued a restraining order mandating that he stay away from her for the next four years. But not before, police say, Haughton gunned down seven women -- killing three of them -- inside the same Azana Salon and Spa in Brookfield while using flammable liquid to fuel a fire.
To many times we are so caught up in "our feelings" towards an abuser that we do not count the cost of our refusal to exit or to pull away from what we do know is not right. One never knows when this is the last chance or when things have really gotten to far out of the safety zone and we are just to young and innocent to know the difference and we pay the consequences.
One out of every five murders are caused by Domestic Violence. The two main causes are; (1) violence that gets out of control to the point that it kills, (2) Violence victims who attempt to leave the partnership, friendship, family unit for safety. Whatever the reason they decide to leave, for freedom, to end the abuse, for the children's sake.....whatever finally determines that decision to leave the abusive situation they do not adequately assess the situational dangers of leaving an abusive partner or family member. They realize the threat because they have been there before but they do not realize the stressor that is created when an abuser feels they have been abandoned and what that abandonment creates within that personality.
Especially when the victim has not progressed beyond the realm of being an possession or object that is owned. Ownership eliminates the personhood of the victim. This is also a major factor for previous victims who interpret the controlling nature of possession and ownership with love that seems to fill the empty place created by the previous victimization. Possessiveness and control is not love, it does not mean that the abuser must really care and that you are valuable......It is the replacement of value that you are seeking but you must realize that what an abuser is offering you is not a value but a de-valued personhood. The seperation between you as a person of value and that of an object of ownership in which can provide the abuser relief and justifications through their actions.
I will not say that in all cases the victim does not take actions that escalate the abuse. Many times they do, there are those who have been victims and that becomes their confort zone and they become a life time victim. Victims who invite abuse do not deserve the abuse but because it offers them an avenue to feel and to interact on the level that matches the emptiness that was left behind by their previous victimization.
Not all victims invite abuse nor do they take actions that deserve them. Some times victims get invloved for the fact that they have a area within their heart that wants to help others and they rend to search out and fall for the underdog. Someone who may or may not match their own self-esteem level of worth.
Has your life become so dependant upon the emtional/Physical stability of another that you: Regardless of who you are, where you are or how you are no one can give respect to a doormat. A doormat is a place to stomp, wipe, grind, shake, the parts attached to the user that they have no use for or do not desire to carry into a place they do respect. Humm? That is exactly what one does when they approach a doormat, a place to dump all the un-desirable substance so that they can walk "clean" or (without that ugly baggage weighting them down). The opportunity to once again walk free and clear of the ugly, to breathe once again without fear, burden or pressure.
So whatever becomes of that ugly, stinky, contaiment of substance containing God only knows what? Until some one cleans it up it remains in the doormat day after day, month after month. Sometimes it carries that substance until it cannot contain any more and begans to spill over at the sides. Sometimes another soul will see it and have mercy or the desire to set it free and cleans it.
At this point, some doormats taste a bit of freedom and like the breath of fresh air. They began to shake off the ugly substance trying to come back so it shakes and shimmers trying to continue to breathe. Other doormats may get the one (or another) that cleaned it to return again and again to maintain that cleaniness. Then other doormats will just not have or desire the energy/self esteem to fight and will become so matted that eventually it will require throwing out and replaced by a new one. While others feel that they do not deserve to be anything but that doormat and that is a lie. Regardless of where you are coming from, what you have done or what someone has done to you. YOU HAVE THE RIGHT NOT TO BE A DOORMAT! God did not create you to be a doormat, so many teachings have become twisted so that the truth cannot be seen. There is a difference between compromise or give and take and being a doormat.
Does your everyday life depend on your actions becoming to:
Prevent (the emotions or actions of another from becoming harmful, tantums, anger, violent, controlling, etc.
Alter your life or reactions or the lives of your loved ones and friends to prevent onset or outbreak of negative reaction from another.
Are you being pushed into "overly" pleasing, that you have to always give all of yourself until you have become non-existant in order to actually to please that other person?
Do you find that your likes, hobbies, goals are becoming less important or maybe even being eliminated?
Has your family, friends, co-workers seem to have disappeared from spending time with you?
Do you find yourself more and more or even constantly making justifications and/or blaming yourself for things that another person has done or reacted unfavorably to?
Are you noticing that the "life" you have together (finances, friends, family, personal space, etc) is becoming more and more controlled by the other person and less yours?
Has your life become so dependant upon the emtional/Physical stability of another that you:
1) Alter how you are (allowed) to feel or have emotional/mental reaction to
2) Feel that you have nothing worthwhile to contribute, that you are to stupid, worthless or important
3) That how you think or feel about something are ALWAYS wrong, that they are not worthy of validation
4) Withdraw to the point that you no longer exist
5) Over pleasing others out of subconscience fear and the threat of being harmed
6) If your eveyday life depends on your ability to "control negative mood swings" and to bring peace or for stablility in the emotions of another then you are a doormat and most likely in an abusive or becoming abusive relationship.
Please note: Not all persons are in a dangerous relationship and not all relationships are bad. The sad truth is that many are in "bad relationships" or on the path towards one and they may not see what really lies just ahead. For those who are in a bad relationship, being drawn into one (being manipulated and cannot see the dangers lurking down that rosey path) or trapped in fear and cannot get out.
The first thing an abuser will look for is your weakness, they know their behavior will never allow them to secure you under their control so they prey on your weakest point. That is the low self-esteem or the overly needy part of you that you may or may not even be aware of yourself. At this point they have found someone to release their "hidden side" to and you may feel as if you have found that perfect match who fulfills the needs others do not. This is all part of the manipulation to draw you into a place where they can gain control and lash out that "demon" waiting inside them to fulfill its desires. Ever wonder how they can be so sencerely sorry after an episode? This is why, they "the person" are truly sorry, it is the "demon personality" that has caused the harm but they feel responsible because they knew it was going to happen and they also either enjoy some portion of it and are un-willing to work at getting help or they do not know they can be helped.
For those of you who have given up your inner self to please or become a doormat you have not helped yourself or the one using you. In fact you are enabling them to continue to project that ugly substance upon another instead of seeing what is there inside of them. They will never be healed and freed by this method and you will never recover yourself as long as you lay down to become the doormat.
This is not a revenge site, nor is it intended to assist those who are seeking revenge. What you do in your personal life is your business but you need to know that I work with both Abusers and their Victims. First and Foremost is;
(1) The victims safety
(2) The victims regardless of what abuse do not deserve the destructive damages of abuse
(3) That they are not objects nor possessions and have the full right to being created equal
(3) The victims assistance
My take on the The Abuser
(1) That they are victims themselves
(2) That they need assistance to prevent future victimizations
(3) That they are not evil but that evil resides within them
(4) That with the correct understanding and help they can be free from their abusive natures (if they choose to be) the timing is different for everyone. An abuser may not seek help today but they might next week. It is normal and we all have a time and a place where we come to the last draw and turn back.
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